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Carefully measuring the wind, scouting over the fiord, Eskil Rønningsbakken closes his eyes and clears his mind. Taking one more step towards the edge, he suddenly goes up into a handstand, balancing 2,000 feet above the fiord. With extreme precision and aplomb he manages to hold the highest ever one-handed pose despite exerting his lower upper arm to extreme pressure. He is the world’s best balance artist.
We all search for balance in our work, relationships, health, and spiritual life. We want the wheel of life to be perfectly round and in harmony. Is this a goal within reach?
I am not an exception—I am still searching for balance in most areas in life. However, in my experience it seems as though many have gotten this concept of balance all wrong. Some believe balance and harmony to be static. I find truth in Eskil’s words: “Balance is very dynamic. The moment I stand still when I’m balancing, I fall. Balance is about constant motion towards finding your path.”
While I’ve tremendously enjoyed building my career in the network marketing profession for the past thirteen years, I can´t say the whole journey has been in perfect harmony. There have been seasons for hard work, discipline, and nurturing relationships. I’ve had huge setbacks and tremendous successes. However, I have yet to find another profession that focuses so much on giving every man and woman a chance to grow—not only in business, but in all aspects of life.
I’ve had the pleasure of meeting thousands of women—some of whom I got to work with closely—and seeing their lives change for the better when they over time muster up the courage to dream big, try new possibilities, and believe in themselves. When you strengthen your belief in yourself, the ripple effects are tremendous. Your health improves, your relationships become stronger, your paycheck goes up, you are able to be more present with your family, and it is reflected in your quality of life and happiness. In addition to all this, network marketing has given me the opportunity to be more me. Even though I still strive for perfection, I’ve come to accept that the shape of different aspects of life is not always round. As I grow myself, my standards in each area grow. What I saw as “balance” a few years ago has changed now that my goals have increased.
We all go through different seasons. Through it all, I have peace of mind that I am in the right place and in the right profession. I am truly grateful for the opportunity. As I accept that my wheel of live is not always perfectly round and in harmony, I feel truly happy because I am challenging myself to be more of me. In constant motion, I am in balance.
A second chance…
So what is the real truth about achieving success? Success in life is not about the first attempt. It is about giving yourself a second chance. Failure comes from not trying. Successful people keep on failing until there is no more ways to fail and they finally succeed.
Last weekend Ørjan and I celebrated my birthday in London. Always great fun – superb shopping at Harrods, a variety of dining and musical shows. Being in London I was reminded of a speech I heard a while back given by one of the most successful British authors, J.K Rowling.
When she addressed the graduating class at Harvard June 2008, she didn’t focus on success. Instead, she spoke about failure. She related a story about a young woman who gave up her dream of writing novels to study something more practical. Nonetheless, she ended up as an unemployed single mom “as poor as it is possible to be in modern Britain without being homeless.” But during this rock-bottom time, she realized she still had a wonderful daughter, an old typewriter, and an idea that would become the foundation for rebuilding her life. Perhaps you’ve heard of Harry Potter? “You might never fail on the scale I did,” Rowling told that privileged audience. “But it is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all—in which case, you fail by default.
What I have found is that most people are too hard on themselves. Instead of smiling and learning from yet another failed attempt (Yes – I know it can be hard..;)) you beat yourselves up and swear you will never do that badly again. The conclusion is: You never really give yourself a real shot to succeed.
Have you ever heard the expression: “The graveyard is the most valuably place one earth”? In reality there is much truth to it. If there only was a way we could dig up all the inventions, all the books, the paintings and the music, the graveyard would be the most valuable place on earth. But because many people didn´t give themselves a second chance, there is only dust and dirt.
Don´t bring your talent with you to the grave. Explore it! Live it! Let the world see it! And when you stumble and fall: Smile and tell yourself: You´re a master making your way in life!
Live rich and give yourself a second chance!
I am nervous…. This is my FIRST blog post…
Have you ever been nervous the first time you did something?
I remember my first day at primary school, I was nervous…
The first time I was competing in the junior swimming championship in Norway, I was very nervous…
My first day of University, yes – you guessed it, also…
My first job interview, I was shaking…
Signing my first customer contract as a key account manager – definitely nervous, but also very excited…
My first speech, what an interesting experience;)
When I signed my first distributor agreement in MLM, I was not only nervous, I nearly freaked out!
The next day I went to talk with the smartest student in law school. He was my friend and “the nerd” that was the leader of the nerds in my faculty. To find out about this new business, I hired him to investigate if this “network marketing-thing” was legitimate or if I had just bought products for 1000 dollars I had to sell.
I was 20 years old. My “investigator” was 25 year old. Exactly 30 days later he came back to me with a stack of 300 sheets. He had really been taking this research thing seriously… He gave me a lecture of the whole history of network marketing. How it started as direct sales in the late 1800s and then evolved into network marketing later. (If you are interested reading an article about the history of MLM, check this out: History of network marketing)
Finally he concluded saying: “I believe it is a good business to be in for many people. It gives everyone an equal chance to succeed and build a home based business. However Hilde, I don´t know if you have what it takes to succeed at this…”
That was it! I immediately decided: I WILL PROVE HIM WRONG!
Today, 12 years later, I have been a full time network marketer for 10 years. I can honestly say THAT comment was actually what pushed me to give it a real shot. And even though you might laugh and think: She is easy to provoke – I am grateful for being so competitive that I decided to go for it. I am so grateful for the network marketing profession, for working with an amazing group of leaders and for being able to do something I love and are passionate about. It changed my life.
So if you are nervous about doing something new, it is natural. If somebody tells you that you can´t succeed, that´s usually a part of the process of succeeding. The question is what your decision is if you get the same comment. Hopefully it will be to prove them wrong and YOU RIGHT.
SEND! It is done!
My first post is online…. CARPE DIEM!