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Ørjan: Empowerment Lessons from My Dad
It’s late in the evening far up in the mountains and rain is pouring down. I’m ten years old and my hand is holding on to my dad’s big, strong hand. Together with my sister we are mountain hiking in Holmedal, Norway, where my grandparents have their summerhouse. It is not the ﬁrst time we are hiking in bad weather, we are famous for it. I am tired and hungry and my boots are ﬁlled with water, yet I feel safe and have a good attitude. I want to sit down and rest, and I’m thinking of being home safe, in my mother’s lap. But to give up is not an option.
I learned from my dad that giving up is not a solution.
The mountain hikes he took me on had great rewards: I felt proud and fulﬁlled to complete them; I felt safe, because dad always looked after me; when we ﬁnally made it home, food tasted like never before.
But the most exciting reward I would be thinking about was my dad’s proud eyes, the warm hugs from my mom, and all the praise I would receive for completing these challenging ventures. I longed for this form of reward so I could feel like a young man instead of a child.
My dad made me feel like a leader. The most important part of leading leaders is to make them feel like leaders. We all strive for the reward of recognition and a job well done. Actors are looking for an Oscar. CEOs are looking for peer reviews of their ﬁnancials. Politicians are looking for recognition in the polls.
In order to build leaders, create an environment where people can develop, feel safe and be rewarded. This brings out the best in all of us. Here are three keys for leading leaders:
- Develop a personal growth plan. Build your leaders’ mindset so they can stay on top and get back up when the beating comes. When you see your leaders fail, step in and help them back up like my father’s big hand helped me. And guess what: He never took the credit; he only promoted my achievement.
- Develop a friendship. When things get tough, friendship will carry you through. Spend time with your leaders and it will be easier for them to duplicate you. Not all things learned can be taught; some have to be shown. Watching you—in business as in personal life—counts for more than hundreds of hours of training. Truly living what you teach at all times creates belief and trust.
- Bring leaders to your level. Expect from them what you expect from yourself, and help them achieve it. Provide what they need so they can bloom. The trademark of a true master is that he makes his student better than himself.
A good father helps, guides and recognizes his son (even if the son only did parts and the father did most of the work). Do the same and you will create great and growing leadership around you.
Hilde: Powerful Questions
What questions do you ask yourself when “the going gets tough”?
Last June I was on a mountain hike together with my husband and son. It was beautiful. Bright colors, warming sun and the birds cheering. We all enjoyed the wonderful “time-out” as a family breathing in the fresh mountain air.
Then, – suddenly, out of nowhere, dark clouds appeared, and rain started pouring down! After a while, getting soaking wet and worried about how our son was doing and if we had chosen the right track, I got stressed, unfocused and “naggy”;) The trip ended up in the hospital after I tripped on a slippery root and fractured my wrist…
Looking back at this experience, it sometimes reminds me about the journey we go through when building a business.
When you are just getting started, everything is fun and exiting. You are establishing valuable relations for your trade. Your friends and family is supportive. You are enthusiastically following your idols or mentors. You love the opportunities that emerge through your efforts.
But THEN, as time goes by, maybe your business don´t grow as fast as you want. And you start to question yourself and the path you are on. Are you on the right track? Suddenly – this wobbling enthusiasm may cause doubt, both in you and the opportunity presented through your business venture.
In these moments, be aware of the questions you ask yourself.
Because ask you ask – you will receive.
So instead of asking:
- Why don´t I have success?
- Why is my business not growing faster?
- Is there something wrong with me?
Turn around the questions and ask:
- How can I progress faster?
- How can I improve?
- What do I need to learn?
- I have what it takes! With more time I will succeed!
The first questions are causing a “negative” focus where you might end up with all the reasons you won´t succeed. The last questions give you the opportunity to search for solutions you can implement to achieve your goals. Suddenly by asking the right questions you might have the answers you need that will propel you forward.
So, next time when you are out walking – in life or business – remember to ask yourself the right questions. They will for sure help you reach your target a lot faster – without a fractured wrist;)
Face your dreams!
When you have nothing, it is hard to imagine that you will one day accomplish that Big Dream. Hilde will tell you how to start your journey towards success.
Make a change!
Believe in the people on you team. Match your expectations to your dreams and to your collective potential.
See Ørjan speak about how to make a change through leadership.
Break the Zero!
Are you too busy to produce and follow up in your business? “If I were only someone else”, you say. In this video Hilde tells you how to shift your focus, take control, and break the zero!
Children are big dreamers, and easily believe that they are Superheroes.
Put the “Super” back into you. Listen to Ørjan explain how you can change, grow and become an influencer.
Love is in the air!
We are in love! We can’t describe the feelings that arises when we look our newborn son Gabriel in the eyes. We’re so incredibly happy – and our life are at its peak! There might not be a direct comparison between love for your kids and love for your business, but we’ll give it a try.
You might remember the movie: “Notting Hill” released 1999 – where the super star, Anna Scott (Julia Roberts) ends up dating the local boy William “Will” Thacker (Hugh Grant) in the suburbs of London, Notting Hill. After all the drama love wins in the end and our hearts melt.
The question is how does the film director get our emotions involved and what can we take home to our business from this romantic comedy? We believe the answer is “BR”.
In your Direct Sales business the “BR” is the Business Review where you go over what worked and what didn’t work. That you do a PDCA, (Plan-Do-Check-Adjust), of your business and help your team do the same.
In the movie the “BR” are all the reflections after the sequences of drama. It is when the horde of reporters gathers outside of Wills house to get a photo of the lovers and have something to write about. It is when the super star Anna is crying behind her sunglasses and Will is hiding in his room. It is when the super star says the famous sentence “I am just a girl, standing in front of a boy, asking him to love her”.
Something happens, then we reflect: “BR”. Something else happens, then we reflect again: “BR”. Each event leads up to the grand finale when all the friends of Will becomes involved in racing through the streets of London to help Will find Anna. And of course – love conquers all:)
So lets look at how we can use “BR” as a tool in our business.
Set aside a time on a regular basis with your business partners and go through the good, the bad and the ugly. The good we praise, the bad we adjust and the ugly – well, we change what we can change – the rest we pray for:) And then we look at:
-What is the big dream, what skills do we need to develop, what tactics can we implement, how do we adjust our goals and what is the specific action plan for the next month?
The lack of “BR” in life kills everything. The lack o “BR” in your business stops you from living your ultimate dreams.
Even though we are wildly in love with Gabriel – that doesn´t mean he is always happy with us. Sometimes he cries and we have no idea why!! This parent-thing is brand new to us. On his 33rd day of life – (yes, we admit we are probably a bit slow) – we just learned this funny detail that his diapers has a mark that turns from yellow to blue when they need to be changed…
These days we are going through an ongoing “BR”-session. “Why is he crying – is it the diapers or might it be a burp, is he hungry or do we need to Google it yet another time: Could it be something else?!!”
Life with Gabriel is “BR” on steroids! I don´t think there has been a single day in his life where we haven´t done a PDCA. And hopefully these business reviews keeps Gabriel happy and makes us a little bit better – step-by-step.
Inspiration appears when there is the tiniest bit of hope that you can make your dream happen. And when you implement the PDCA in the “BR” on a continuous basis you create the perfect set up for a happy ending.
We are so happy for our big blessing in Gabriel. After weeks of stressful evenings where we constantly have reviewed – “What can we do differently?” – THIS is our first night of success where he is sleeping so well that we are actually waiting for him to wake up:))
Fundamentally Business Review equals CHANGE.
And when you fall in love with change – it becomes the tool that will help you win!
In this speech, “Number 14”, Hilde will teach you her personal journey of Dream – Struggle – Victory. If you are “pregnant” with a big dream you might need to deal with obstacles on your journey to success. In this talk she gives you a heartfelt personal story on perseverance towards achieving one of her dreams. You will learn some of the strategies and techniques that Hilde uses in her business to achieve tremendous results:
1. How to create good habits
2. How to keep your long term vision
3. How to avoid deception
Success is not about where you start – it is all about implementing the right strategies to achieve your dreams.
Watch, learn and enjoy!
Carefully measuring the wind, scouting over the fiord, Eskil Rønningsbakken closes his eyes and clears his mind. Taking one more step towards the edge, he suddenly goes up into a handstand, balancing 2,000 feet above the fiord. With extreme precision and aplomb he manages to hold the highest ever one-handed pose despite exerting his lower upper arm to extreme pressure. He is the world’s best balance artist.
We all search for balance in our work, relationships, health, and spiritual life. We want the wheel of life to be perfectly round and in harmony. Is this a goal within reach?
I am not an exception—I am still searching for balance in most areas in life. However, in my experience it seems as though many have gotten this concept of balance all wrong. Some believe balance and harmony to be static. I find truth in Eskil’s words: “Balance is very dynamic. The moment I stand still when I’m balancing, I fall. Balance is about constant motion towards finding your path.”
While I’ve tremendously enjoyed building my career in the network marketing profession for the past thirteen years, I can´t say the whole journey has been in perfect harmony. There have been seasons for hard work, discipline, and nurturing relationships. I’ve had huge setbacks and tremendous successes. However, I have yet to find another profession that focuses so much on giving every man and woman a chance to grow—not only in business, but in all aspects of life.
I’ve had the pleasure of meeting thousands of women—some of whom I got to work with closely—and seeing their lives change for the better when they over time muster up the courage to dream big, try new possibilities, and believe in themselves. When you strengthen your belief in yourself, the ripple effects are tremendous. Your health improves, your relationships become stronger, your paycheck goes up, you are able to be more present with your family, and it is reflected in your quality of life and happiness. In addition to all this, network marketing has given me the opportunity to be more me. Even though I still strive for perfection, I’ve come to accept that the shape of different aspects of life is not always round. As I grow myself, my standards in each area grow. What I saw as “balance” a few years ago has changed now that my goals have increased.
We all go through different seasons. Through it all, I have peace of mind that I am in the right place and in the right profession. I am truly grateful for the opportunity. As I accept that my wheel of live is not always perfectly round and in harmony, I feel truly happy because I am challenging myself to be more of me. In constant motion, I am in balance.
A second chance…
So what is the real truth about achieving success? Success in life is not about the first attempt. It is about giving yourself a second chance. Failure comes from not trying. Successful people keep on failing until there is no more ways to fail and they finally succeed.
Last weekend Ørjan and I celebrated my birthday in London. Always great fun – superb shopping at Harrods, a variety of dining and musical shows. Being in London I was reminded of a speech I heard a while back given by one of the most successful British authors, J.K Rowling.
When she addressed the graduating class at Harvard June 2008, she didn’t focus on success. Instead, she spoke about failure. She related a story about a young woman who gave up her dream of writing novels to study something more practical. Nonetheless, she ended up as an unemployed single mom “as poor as it is possible to be in modern Britain without being homeless.” But during this rock-bottom time, she realized she still had a wonderful daughter, an old typewriter, and an idea that would become the foundation for rebuilding her life. Perhaps you’ve heard of Harry Potter? “You might never fail on the scale I did,” Rowling told that privileged audience. “But it is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all—in which case, you fail by default.
What I have found is that most people are too hard on themselves. Instead of smiling and learning from yet another failed attempt (Yes – I know it can be hard..;)) you beat yourselves up and swear you will never do that badly again. The conclusion is: You never really give yourself a real shot to succeed.
Have you ever heard the expression: “The graveyard is the most valuably place one earth”? In reality there is much truth to it. If there only was a way we could dig up all the inventions, all the books, the paintings and the music, the graveyard would be the most valuable place on earth. But because many people didn´t give themselves a second chance, there is only dust and dirt.
Don´t bring your talent with you to the grave. Explore it! Live it! Let the world see it! And when you stumble and fall: Smile and tell yourself: You´re a master making your way in life!
Live rich and give yourself a second chance!