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25 traits of an Attractive Personality

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When I was young, I desired success SO much. But I had a problem: I was so insecure, I came across as arrogant. I needed to display the attractive traits of my personality, and in order to do that, I needed to become conscious of how I affect others.

Through Napoleon Hill’s book, Pleasing Personality, I started to focus on what I needed to work on to become a better version of myself. In this video, I will share with you Napoleon Hill’s principles of an attractive personality. I will share what I have learned, and how I evolved over the years to be perceived as the person I truly am.


The Discomfort of a Dream

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After many requests, I´ve decided to publish a video I recently did for my company´s Annual Event talking about what I believe it takes to create a Breakthrough, using my own story.

As you set out to achieve a Big Dream, you must also be willing to go through some discomfort to achieve it. In this video, I touch on what it takes to go from an imagination to the actual birth of Your Dream.

Because the video was recorded for internal use at a Direct Selling Event, I ask you to excuse the mentioning of our company name. I trust however that the message will help you on your path to fulfill your desired goals and dreams.

PS: Our daughter Sarah Elouise was born October 11th:) Proud mama! 😉


Ørjan: Empowerment Lessons from My Dad

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It’s late in the evening far up in the mountains and rain is pouring down. I’m ten years old and my hand is holding on to my dad’s big, strong hand. Together with my sister we are mountain hiking in Holmedal, Norway, where my grandparents have their summerhouse. It is not the first time we are hiking in bad weather, we are famous for it. I am tired and hungry and my boots are filled with water, yet I feel safe and have a good attitude. I want to sit down and rest, and I’m thinking of being home safe, in my mother’s lap. But to give up is not an option.

I learned from my dad that giving up is not a solution.

The mountain hikes he took me on had great rewards: I felt proud and fulfilled to complete them; I felt safe, because dad always looked after me; when we finally made it home, food tasted like never before.

But the most exciting reward I would be thinking about was my dad’s proud eyes, the warm hugs from my mom, and all the praise I would receive for completing these challenging ventures. I longed for this form of reward so I could feel like a young man instead of a child.

My dad made me feel like a leader. The most important part of leading leaders is to make them feel like leaders. We all strive for the reward of recognition and a job well done. Actors are looking for an Oscar. CEOs are looking for peer reviews of their financials. Politicians are looking for recognition in the polls.

In order to build leaders, create an environment where people can develop, feel safe and be rewarded. This brings out the best in all of us. Here are three keys for leading leaders:

  1. Develop a personal growth plan. Build your leaders’ mindset so they can stay on top and get back up when the beating comes. When you see your leaders fail, step in and help them back up like my father’s big hand helped me. And guess what: He never took the credit; he only promoted my achievement.
  1. Develop a friendship. When things get tough, friendship will carry you through. Spend time with your leaders and it will be easier for them to duplicate you. Not all things learned can be taught; some have to be shown. Watching you—in business as in personal life—counts for more than hundreds of hours of training. Truly living what you teach at all times creates belief and trust.
  1. Bring leaders to your level. Expect from them what you expect from yourself, and help them achieve it. Provide what they need so they can bloom. The trademark of a true master is that he makes his student better than himself.

A good father helps, guides and recognizes his son (even if the son only did parts and the father did most of the work). Do the same and you will create great and growing leadership around you.


Urgent or Important?

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Have you done the most important thing today?

This daily focus defines the difference between rich and poor. Many people go through life thinking about all the important tasks they should have done. But because of lack of understanding most people end up doing what is urgent or what they feel like in the moment. When you´ve done what is urgent you might feel happy and think what you´ve been doing have been important. In many cases this is a lie. Why?

Because urgent and important is not the same.

Last Wednesday the 3rd of July Ørjan and I enjoyed a whole grilled Jon Dory fish at a beautiful Italian restaurant in Berlin together with our friend and mentor Orrin Woodward. The food tasted delicious and as always we had a thriving conversation. Then Mr. Woodward asked. What about Sturgeon´s Law? 90% of everything is simply crud (low of value).

So Orrin explained: Understanding Sturgeon´s Law helps you study the leadership teams honestly and not be fooled by the endless talk with no results. When all is said and done, much more is said than ever done. The 10 percent walk while the 90 percent talk. So Hilde and Ørjan, are you spending your time with the 10 percent?

It is always good to get a reminder. And this was again a big reminder for both of us. Are we spending our time with our leaders or are we using more time on responding to the urgent calls from the team?

What about you? How do you know who and what is important?

Similar to how you can follow the results on the scoreboard during a sports match, we also have a scoreboard in our business. What does your result show? Are you learning? Are you improving? How many leaders have you developed lately? How many leaders have your leaders developed?

Urgent and important is not the same. It is crucial to understand the difference to reach your goals. How do you spend your time? Are you a talker or a walker? Do you actually walk your talk, or do you just talk it?

So let me ask you again: Have you done the most important thing today?