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The Law of Cause and Effect
Success is an event that some get and others do not get, dependent on chance or luck. Success is predictable. We all can achieve all the success we want, and even more.
As most people, you have probably realized that most of what happens is for a cause and has a consequence (effect). If you understand the law of gravity, centrifugal force and the other laws of nature, you too understand they are ruled by the laws of nature. When you kick a football, it will speed forward. If you throw a ball into the air, it will fall down. If you plant a seed, the nature will let a tree grow up.
What is fascinating is that we all believe that the universe is governed by natural laws, but when things happen in our life, it is by chance, coincidence or luck.
The truth is, all is ruled by the Law of Cause and Effect. We have been set up with a navigation system, which is our attitude; positive or negative. Attitude is defined as a predisposition or a tendency that refers to an action, feeling or mood. And it is precisely our actions, feelings and moods that determine the action, feeling and mood other people feel toward us. It is not your attitude this moment that decides, but the sum of your thoughts, feelings and actions through your day and your life.
Let me show you 2 examples:
-A person with a bad attitude for learning will not learn much until he changes his attitude.
-A person with a bad attitude for training will not be physically fit until he changes his attitude.
In reality, our environment is a mirror of our attitude. If we don t like our environment, the first and only thing to do is to change our attitude. The Universe has no favorites. The Universe is impartial.
So how do you obtain a good attitude? Try this experiment: Move your right arm in acircle. While moving your arm, think about the fact, it is your subconsciousness that actually performs the work. Why is that? Yes, because there is no chance you can move about 157 muscles between you shoulder and your wrist by the conscious though. This is too much organization. It is too complicated to say: ”Muscle # 53 ten degrees left, then muscle #71 thirteen degrees right a.s.o…” Your subconsciousness actually receives the command, and moves your arm in a circle, the same way it sees to you are breathing and that your heart beats. The conscious part of the thought sent the command, but the subconscious part did the action. This process repeats itself thousands, maybe hundreds of thousand times every day. Each time a thought becomes action, the subconsciousness starts manifesting the idea in your life. This is why your attitude is so important. All the thoughts you think by the conscious part of your brain is transferred to the subconscious part, which starts a process in your body or activates invisible forces. The subconscious part has no ability to feel or disclose information. What it does, is to act on instructions provided.
The way it all works, is we choose a thought in our conscious mind and get emotionally involved. As we continue thinking this thought, our subconscious mind starts doing the action. This is exactly what happened a few minutes ago when you moved your arm. Your conscious mind choose that thought, and you wanted to do the exercise. You gave the command to your subconscious mind, which thereafter activated the muscles necessary to move your arm. This is the way all results are made. Thoughts create feelings in your subconscious mind. Feelings create action, and action creates result. This is the Law of Cause and Effect.
So, if you change your thoughts, you change your results. All thoughts you think again and again will end up in a physical form. You create your environment from how you think. And if your thoughts are changing, the results will also have to change. We can all achieve the success we want, and even more.
25 traits of an Attractive Personality
When I was young, I desired success SO much. But I had a problem: I was so insecure, I came across as arrogant. I needed to display the attractive traits of my personality, and in order to do that, I needed to become conscious of how I affect others.
Through Napoleon Hill’s book, Pleasing Personality, I started to focus on what I needed to work on to become a better version of myself. In this video, I will share with you Napoleon Hill’s principles of an attractive personality. I will share what I have learned, and how I evolved over the years to be perceived as the person I truly am.
The Discomfort of a Dream
After many requests, I´ve decided to publish a video I recently did for my company´s Annual Event talking about what I believe it takes to create a Breakthrough, using my own story.
As you set out to achieve a Big Dream, you must also be willing to go through some discomfort to achieve it. In this video, I touch on what it takes to go from an imagination to the actual birth of Your Dream.
Because the video was recorded for internal use at a Direct Selling Event, I ask you to excuse the mentioning of our company name. I trust however that the message will help you on your path to fulfill your desired goals and dreams.
PS: Our daughter Sarah Elouise was born October 11th:) Proud mama! 😉
Ørjan: Empowerment Lessons from My Dad
It’s late in the evening far up in the mountains and rain is pouring down. I’m ten years old and my hand is holding on to my dad’s big, strong hand. Together with my sister we are mountain hiking in Holmedal, Norway, where my grandparents have their summerhouse. It is not the ﬁrst time we are hiking in bad weather, we are famous for it. I am tired and hungry and my boots are ﬁlled with water, yet I feel safe and have a good attitude. I want to sit down and rest, and I’m thinking of being home safe, in my mother’s lap. But to give up is not an option.
I learned from my dad that giving up is not a solution.
The mountain hikes he took me on had great rewards: I felt proud and fulﬁlled to complete them; I felt safe, because dad always looked after me; when we ﬁnally made it home, food tasted like never before.
But the most exciting reward I would be thinking about was my dad’s proud eyes, the warm hugs from my mom, and all the praise I would receive for completing these challenging ventures. I longed for this form of reward so I could feel like a young man instead of a child.
My dad made me feel like a leader. The most important part of leading leaders is to make them feel like leaders. We all strive for the reward of recognition and a job well done. Actors are looking for an Oscar. CEOs are looking for peer reviews of their ﬁnancials. Politicians are looking for recognition in the polls.
In order to build leaders, create an environment where people can develop, feel safe and be rewarded. This brings out the best in all of us. Here are three keys for leading leaders:
- Develop a personal growth plan. Build your leaders’ mindset so they can stay on top and get back up when the beating comes. When you see your leaders fail, step in and help them back up like my father’s big hand helped me. And guess what: He never took the credit; he only promoted my achievement.
- Develop a friendship. When things get tough, friendship will carry you through. Spend time with your leaders and it will be easier for them to duplicate you. Not all things learned can be taught; some have to be shown. Watching you—in business as in personal life—counts for more than hundreds of hours of training. Truly living what you teach at all times creates belief and trust.
- Bring leaders to your level. Expect from them what you expect from yourself, and help them achieve it. Provide what they need so they can bloom. The trademark of a true master is that he makes his student better than himself.
A good father helps, guides and recognizes his son (even if the son only did parts and the father did most of the work). Do the same and you will create great and growing leadership around you.
Make a change!
Believe in the people on you team. Match your expectations to your dreams and to your collective potential.
See Ørjan speak about how to make a change through leadership.
Children are big dreamers, and easily believe that they are Superheroes.
Put the “Super” back into you. Listen to Ørjan explain how you can change, grow and become an influencer.
Build your grit!
How do you get to the pinnacle of your dreams? What does it take to lead your team?
And how do you develop the stamina to finish the race? In this talk Ørjan goes through what it really takes to go beyond the first levels of your compensation plan ranks. Enjoy!
Urgent or Important?
Have you done the most important thing today?
This daily focus defines the difference between rich and poor. Many people go through life thinking about all the important tasks they should have done. But because of lack of understanding most people end up doing what is urgent or what they feel like in the moment. When you´ve done what is urgent you might feel happy and think what you´ve been doing have been important. In many cases this is a lie. Why?
Because urgent and important is not the same.
Last Wednesday the 3rd of July Ørjan and I enjoyed a whole grilled Jon Dory fish at a beautiful Italian restaurant in Berlin together with our friend and mentor Orrin Woodward. The food tasted delicious and as always we had a thriving conversation. Then Mr. Woodward asked. What about Sturgeon´s Law? 90% of everything is simply crud (low of value).
So Orrin explained: Understanding Sturgeon´s Law helps you study the leadership teams honestly and not be fooled by the endless talk with no results. When all is said and done, much more is said than ever done. The 10 percent walk while the 90 percent talk. So Hilde and Ørjan, are you spending your time with the 10 percent?
It is always good to get a reminder. And this was again a big reminder for both of us. Are we spending our time with our leaders or are we using more time on responding to the urgent calls from the team?
What about you? How do you know who and what is important?
Similar to how you can follow the results on the scoreboard during a sports match, we also have a scoreboard in our business. What does your result show? Are you learning? Are you improving? How many leaders have you developed lately? How many leaders have your leaders developed?
Urgent and important is not the same. It is crucial to understand the difference to reach your goals. How do you spend your time? Are you a talker or a walker? Do you actually walk your talk, or do you just talk it?
So let me ask you again: Have you done the most important thing today?